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Dr Corrinne Allyson with her beloved Shanti
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Corrinne and Shanti...
For more than 12 years, Shanti was my best friend, my companion and my baby. Shanti means 'peace' in Sanskrit and that was the essence she embodied. Peace. Shanti was the sweetest, gentlest being. I took her everywhere with me. We went to restaurants and the owner would hide her under the table knowing it was illegal to have a pet in there. I took her to work and she would tell us when the 50-minute psychotherapy session was up so I didn't even have to look at my watch! I even took her to Pilates classes. When Shanti had to be euthanized, the vet was compassionate and supportive. Shanti died in my arms with my hand on her heart. And then.... I left the vet's alone, Shanti's leash and collar were all that I had. I didn't ask for her ashes because I didn't know what to do with them and I didn't trust I would actually get hers. I went home to an empty house with no one to talk to and I grieved alone, in silence, for a very long time. My support of the Greater Victoria Pet Memorial Center comes from my wish that no pet owner need experience the bereavement in isolation as I did. How I wish I had Jocelyne at that time to come and lovingly pick up Shanti's body for me and guide me through a process that was completely unknown to me. I offer the Pet Loss Support Group as my way of honoring Shanti's memory and the memory of all the animals that have touched our lives. I welcome you to join us and share your story. You will be heard and you will not be alone. -Corrinne Allyson For more information on Corrinne Allyson's practice, please see her web site: Victoria BC Therapy |
Monthly Pet Loss Support Group MeetingsSubsequent meetings for 2011:
May 10 - June 14 - July 12 - August 9 - September 13 October 11 - November 8 - December 13 Questions/RSVP: 250-984-1933 or email us at: center@petmemorialcenter.ca *** This page will be updated each month with stories, recommended books, tips on coping with pet grief, and a FAQ section - we welcome comments! *** |
Grieving the Death of a PetEvery month, we will review and/or recommend a book on pet loss & grief.
The first one that I highly recommend is this one: Grieving the Death of a Pet by Betty J Carmack. I had the pleasure of chatting with Betty (who resides in the San Francisco Bay area) when initially researching the feasibility of a pet loss support group for Victoria. Betty has been facilitating pet loss support groups for well over 3 decades, and the experience, insight and 'love' she brings to pet loss & grief is tremendous and inspiring. After reading her book, I understood - and so will you. Praise for this book by Bernie Siegel, MD, author of Love, Medicine and Miracles, and Prescriptions for Living: "This is a book that will touch your heart and help it to heal. I was crying before I finished the introduction. We all must learn to deal with loss if we are to survive. As a physician, I know how destructive it can be to deny the loss and bury it within one's self. The death of a beloved pet puts us in touch with all our losses. Betty J. Carmack's words of wisdom, coming from her experience with the pain of loss, can help you to heal your life and wounds. The wise know our bodies are impermanent and the only thing of permanence is love. Read on and help make yourself and your beloved immortal." |